Talking about change and decisions
Posted Aug. 29, 2008 by Gabriel Hurley
This is a call for opinions and knowledge.
I had a conversation with a friend last night who came to a sudden state of uncertainty and fear about the need to make changes in their life--a life which is overall pretty good, but which isn't necessarily fulfilling all their needs anymore. And what became clear as the conversation went on is that talking about it made it real. Talking about the possibility of change brings it into the realm of possibility, and suddenly you're faced with a real alternative to the way your life is. And in the case of major life changes, that can be terrifying.
But I've noticed it in my own life, and in lots of other people's lives: It seems like when you have the idea of what it is you really need or want somewhere deep down, you talk about it. First to one or two people as a passing thought. Then maybe to a few more people as a more serious possibility. Then to the people who might be affected as an actual consideration... it builds and creeps up and you talk about it more and more. It gets more and more real.
Then finally if you talk about it enough and you gather the support you need and you tease that idea out from the depths of your unconscious into the real world... then finally is happens.
Or maybe it doesn't. Maybe you don't ge tthe support. Or maybe somebody shows you what a bad idea it is.
But I'm curious: what is behind it all? Is it our nature that we need consensus and support around us? Is it that other people serve as a mirror to see ourselves and what we need? Is it just a process of developing an idea?
I feel like it's not just in my life that this holds true... what do you all think?
It's true enough... talk of something DOES make it real - it is important to choose your reality with care.
The power varies - some try their whole lives, but just do not have the gift. Others don't realize the power they have. And some both recognize and embrace it. The danger lies in unthinking creation, the careless slip of the tongue, the "wish this were different" that starts the first pebbles skittering down the hillside.
For those who are really powerful, the support does not need to be there, the words themselves take hold, however those affected feel about the matter. Sometimes the best we can do is direct and channel them, and hang on for the ride.